In 1980, My wife, (Mary), and I moved from Phoenix to Mesa, (a close suburb), and bought our first home. I was managing a vacuum cleaner store, and my wife was a cashier at a grocery store. My only day off was Sunday, and she was off 2 different days of the week, so we never had much time together. We had no children, but Mary was breeding Afghan Hound dogs.
I was watching TV one peaceful Sunday afternoon, and all of a sudden the TV sparked, smoked, sputtered, and lit on fire. I jumped off the sofa, opened the front door, unplugged the TV, picked it up and threw it in the front yard.
Even with my wife and I both working, we didn't have enough money to buy a new TV. The new house had eaten up all of our extra money, and there were a lot of new expenses in owning a new home.
I was talking to a friend of mine about my financial problems. He mentioned that his father used to own a vacuum business, and said, "Why don't we go to the Flea Market in Phoenix on weekends and sell vacuum cleaners, bags, belts, and parts". I told him that it sounded like a good idea, but my only day off was on Sunday. We agreed that he would work Saturday, and we would both work on Sunday.
The only other problem was that I had no money for inventory, so he said that he would put up the money to get us started. We both agreed that we would put all the profit into buying more inventory, and vacuum cleaners that we would both rebuild and sell.
We followed through with our plans, and our new business was a success. We were selling huge amounts of bags, belts, and parts, as well as buying old vacuums, fixing them up, and reselling them. All of the profit we made went back into the business, and we started doing more and more business. It was all very exciting, but the only problem was that I was now working 7 days a week, and I still had no color TV.
After about 2 months, I talked to my friend, and mentioned that I would like to get a little money from the business to buy a new color TV. I was kind of surprised when he said, "No Way". I tried to talk him into it, but he was totally against it. He said that he would rather just buy me out of the business that we started, and have the business all to himself. I agreed, and was paid about $800.00, for my share of the business.
I went out and bought my new color TV, and then thought to myself, what will I do with the other $400.00 or so that I had left. Well, right or wrong, I called the vacuum parts distributor that I knew about, and ordered $400.00 worth of bags and supplies, and the following Sunday, I went to the Flea Market, and started my own business. My friend ran into me, and kind of smiled and said, "Oh well, I guess we didn't talk about you doing your own thing out here". I said, "e;All I wanted was some money to get a new color TV, and you were the one who wanted to split up our relationship". We both laughed and remained good friends and competitors that helped each other.
Well this Company History is starting to become a novel, so I'll try to speed things up a little.
I continued to buy more and more supplies, and soon had a huge display of parts, bags, belts, and new and used vacuum cleaners. I was so busy that most of the time I had no way of going to get lunch, or a coke, or anything. After a couple of months of suffering alone, I realized that I needed help. Mary agreed to quit her job, and start helping me.
During the next several years we continued to grow, and soon we had a 30 foot trailer and 4 employees to help us at the Flea Market, and at our home, where we were repairing and rebuilding vacuums during the week.
We got to know all of our neighbors at the Flea Market, including the ones who sold futons behind us. After a few more years we became friends and decided to rent a store together. It was our first actual store, and we split the store space and rent.
I all seemed to be going well for both of us, but one morning, after a couple of months, we went in to open our store, and all of our friends things were gone. All of their futons, desks, computer, everything was gone. They had vanished in the night. All that was left was a note explaining that they weren't making it, and that they felt bad, but they had to abandon ship and move to Seattle. We were surprised and shocked, and were left with all of the expenses of the store, but luckily our business was able to handle the bills.
The first day that they were gone, we had 2 or 3 people that came into our store and asked, "Where are all of your futons". We could have told them that the futons were gone, and all we had now were vacuums. Instead we asked them what size they wanted and what color, and we knew enough about futons, and where to get them, that we were able to make a couple of sales without anything in the store.
This was the beginning of our futon business. For the next several years we sold futons, and vacuums. It was a strange combination, but it worked, and we had many customers who bought a vacuum cleaner and a futon. Eventually the futon part of our business was so busy that we had less and less time for the vacuum part of the business. Our business has continued to grow at a controlled rate year after year.
That's how we got into the futon business .
We are family owned and operated.
Instead of Afghan Hounds, we now have 3 children, Sarah Born in 1992, Joseph 1996, and Daniel 1998.
We sell futon frames and mattresses made by some of the top manufacturers in the country.
We Custom manufacture many frames and other woodworking items.
The reason we manufacture ourselves is to give you better quality products, for less.
All of our employees are helpful, honest, and willing to go the extra distance to help you with your needs.
And it all started because of a TV set that caught on fire.
Allen Hyduck, Family, and Employees of Fantasy Futons
Here is a brief update to our Company History.
Our family, as well as our business continues to grow. Our children are growing up quickly, (as are we), and our 4th child, Michael was born in 2000. We also now live on an Acre in a suburb of Mesa, and my wife stays home most of the time taking care of the kids, as well as our Dog, Cats, Miniature Horses, Ducks, Goats, Parrott, Tarantulas, Fish, Lizards, Hamsters, and Crabs. We now have a Big Screen TV, so I hope it doesn't catch on fire because I won't be able to pick it up and throw it out the door.
Hard Times Hit!
It's been quite a while since I've updated this History. As I read it I start thinking about how fast time has gone. in 2006 - 2007 we closed our store of 25 years due to hard economic times and a change in the area. Housing skyrocketed for 7 or 8 years, and then crashed hard. Most of our competitors had gone out of business or had closed their stores, and our store became the showroom for other dealers with no store.
The only problem was the $17,000 a month overhead and 9 employees that we had to pay, which made it a non profit business since we matched other dealers prices. We are running our website from an office in our home, and we have a warehouse where we stock quite a few futon frames, covers, and mattresses for delivery, or immediate pick-up.
Our youngest child, Michael is now almost 8, and all of our children's hobbies and interests have changed. We still have quite a few animals, reptiles, fish, and other living things around the house. We found a cage full of Scorpions the other day that my son started collecting. Needless to say, we didn't like the idea so we eliminated them.
We thought that after 9/11 we had seen the worst business environment that we'd ever seen, or would ever see. However those days almost seem like good times compared to what's happening now with Bail Outs, and the huge amount of spending and debt that this country is seeing.
The whole country is changing. I think that our freedom, privacy, and the actual control of our lives and our children's lives is being changed whether we like it or not. As a business adviser said to me one day, "You are Survivors", and you will survive, no matter what happens to you.
We've tightened our belts in our business, and our personal lives. I'm sure if the people running this country did the same thing, we wouldn't be in the mess we are in. But they have everything they need, and it's not their money they're spending, or losing. Does anyone understand why we pay for their insurance? Can't they afford to pay for their own insurance?
Oh well, don't get me started on that.
We plan on opening another store as soon as the economy gets better. It doesn't seem like a very wise idea for now to have any extra overhead at all. We do however plan on continuing our website forever, and we are trying to get our kids more involved in the everyday tasks of running a business and a website. We are also starting several new websites that are related to the products we now carry. We don't want 30 years of being in business and establishing a huge customer following, to go down the drain. We still talk to customers almost every day that remember us in our early days, with my wife pregnant with our first child. We plan on our kids or at least one of them taking things over. Maybe the business will evolve again, depending on what their interests are, and what happens in the world.
I have a feeling that someday this Company History will talk about our kids moving away, or that I myself will be gone, and someone else will be writing this story. It's been like a giant roller coaster with lots of ups and downs. We've sacrificed a lot of normal family things and vacations. Our vacations have been short ones, and we were always in contact with the business so we could never really fully let go. I'm sure the kids have been cheated out of quite a bit of time, since when you run your own business it's not just 9 - 5, it's more like 9 to 9 or more. In any case the business has provided for our needs and given us a fairly good life. We've almost done a Full Circle. We started with just myself and my wife, in our home with no employees, and now we're back to that again, except we've got a couple of helpers who are learning.
We miss our love our friends and employees; Tanna, John, Bob, Gaudencio, Rena Jean, Inge, Gene, and yes, even Tim. I hope you are all doing well and continue to do well. They were all with us a long time and were more like family then they were like employees. Who knows what the future will bring, but I'd love to have you all back again someday.
Come On Congressmen and Senators, and Mr. Obama. Get with the program and stop ruining this country and all of it's small businesses. I could do a better job than any of you, I guarantee it. Don't spend money that we don't have. Cut out all the Crap, and you all need to tighten your belts like the rest of us. And Mr. Obama, what ever happened to that Fine Tooth Comb you used to have before you were elected. Did you lose it, or did most of the teeth just fall out.
We are doing a few more things with our kids, and spending a little more time together. Even though there is less money, there is actually more time, and even though we are getting older we are not done yet, God willing. Our kids really want THINGS now, not US, but we can't afford the THINGS so they have to settle with us.
This is getting a little personal but the thing I regret most is that since we started our family so late, both my parents, and my wife parents never saw our children. We both have Brothers and Sisters living in this area but none of them have taken any part in our children's lives. We've done it all ourselves with no Support Group so to speak, from other family. If that sounds like I'm feeling sorry for myself, I guess I am. I'm disappointed that my own brother and sister cared so little about my children, and seeing, or helping them grow up. In fact, this History is probably about all they know of my kids. I guess that's the way it is these days. Everyone has their own busy lives and problems.
I'd like to thank everyone who's supported our business throughout the years and all the great customers we still have. I wonder what the next 25 years will be like. Maybe I should write a book.
I'd like to mostly thank God, for giving me my breath every day, the strength to keep going, a beautiful, and caring wife, 4 smart, healthy kids, and enough business to feed and house my family, and to help as many others as we've been able to.
6/22/2015 Divorce Hits
Wow! I don't even know where to start here. I'll try to keep this short, and concise. For the past 2 or so years, my wife started talking about a separation. After reading about it, I kind of realized that separation, very rarely ended with reconciliation.
For the past two years, I started reading every book and website that I could about how to save your marriage. I learned lots of things that I've done wrong in my life, yet it seemed that her mind was made up, and her heart was hardened to me. She has been hurt so much, that I understand why she won't go to any marriage counseling of any kind. Owning a business, and working with your spouse is a difficult thing to do, if it's not done properly.
The stress of money, along with children, and life in general, and that fact that I put more importance on those things, rather than my relationship with her has taken it's toll. I was not tender with her, I didn't affirm all of the good things she did, and I treated her harshly. I actually treated her more harshly than our employees, but I treated her more like an employee than my wife.
Having to control a business, and employees, I became more of a machine, working hard, and stressing over all of the details and responsibilities of business, and trying to support my family. I didn't hear or see her pain, and ignored it for years and years. Simple disagreements turned into arguments, and became personal, and I felt that I was the one who was right, and needed to win, at all costs. And now I've paid dearly for those wins. I've paid the ultimate cost for my marriage, and the 1 true love of my life, who I've been with for about 40 years. I've also paid the ultimate cost for my family. It will be split up, and the two adult kids, still living with us, along with the 2 minor kids, will now have 2 homes, and will not have a mother and a father who are together. In some ways I suppose this will be better, because they won't be subject to the constant arguing, and disagreements.
I would rather work through all the pain and suffering, and learn how to do things right, and keep our marriage and family together. I don't like giving up. What hurts the most is that my wife feels that the things I've done, were all part of a plan, to manipulate, and control her, and in my reality, they were not. They were done through ignorance, and in not understanding much about women, and how differently men and women think. Although I've learned a lot and have been humbled by my failures, she is so closed down to me, that I can't even show her the things that I've learned, and I can't prove to her, the way I've always felt, and treat her the way that I always should have, because there is too much anger, and mistrust. If I could go back in time, I would have done several things different. The biggest one would have been to run this business by my self, with employees, and let her do what she wanted to do in life that made her happy.
If she wanted to be involved in the business, we should have had clear guidelines of what her responsibilities were, and what mine were, so that we could have acted mostly independent of each other, where we weren't bumping heads so frequently. I still love my wife very much, and don't want the divorce to happen. She is the smartest, wisest, most intuitive, most beautiful woman I've even seen, even after 40 years, and she's the best mom, most caring and loving wife, best helper, best friend, sweetest, kindest, most unselfish, and hardest working person I've ever known. I failed to see her wisdom, and disregarded her abilities, and thought that I had to be the boss, and the ruler of the home, and of the marriage. For quite some time now, I've realized that everything that I thought was so important, was not. And the things that I didn't value, were the things that all the money in the world, couldn't buy. I thought that after 40 years, this would never happen to us, and I knew we had issues, but to me, they weren't bad enough to make either of us want a divorce. Boy was I wrong!
Here's my advise to all men out there. If you are Christian, forget about the Wives obey your husbands, and Men, love your wives like God loved his church verse. I think that was the single most damaging thing to her, and to me. She felt that she had to put up with everything I said or did, and I thought that was a free pass to do anything that I wanted to do. I thought I had to be the Man, and the Ruler of the family, and of her, and I was completely wrong.
When those verses were translated, the true words of Jesus were more like, Women love and submit to your husbands, and Husbands, love and submit to your wives. It was supposed to be equal, but in the 1600's in some parts of the world, women were pretty much property of their husbands, so the translations of the bible were steered into those types of meanings. Lastly, I know what would have prevented this from happening to me, and I think it would prevent many divorces. All men need to do this simple thing. Every week, no matter how busy you are, or what is going on in your life. Sit down with your wife, get rid of all distractions, look into her eyes, and ask her how she feels, and if she still loves you, and is OK with you.
Ask her if you are doing anything that makes her feel bad. Ask her if there is anything that is burdening her, or hurting her that you can help her with. Feel her, touch her, and tell her that you care about her happiness. I ignored everything, and most men do. They feel that when their wife complains, they are just angry, and they go into defensive mode, and take it as a personal attack. All I needed to do was to feel her pain, and correct my actions, and this probably wouldn't be happening to me. Once they make up their minds, and get to the end of their rope, it is almost impossible to go back in time.
This isn't the way I wanted my company history to end, but I felt like it was part of the story, and that by telling it, I can help others avoid the mistakes that I made, and they won't have to suffer like my wife did, and like I am ultimately doing now.
I am struggling to run this business. I'm making mistakes, and am having a hard time keeping up with things. My 2 adult kids are helping me, but without my best helper, and my best friend and companion, (although I wasn't that to her much), has left me, and is not my partner in the business, or in my life, and may never been again, and I am devastated, and trying to move on and forget her, but it's the hardest thing I've ever been through in my life.
Here's an update on our divorce. Our home has sold, and we've now gone our separate ways. All 4 kids, 2 minors, and 2 adults, wanted to come with me. She offered to take our 13 year old with her, and wants to have full, or shared custody with only him.
She's actually moved in with another man. She says that he's just a friend, and that she's paying rent. I asked her about what the Bible says about the, "Appearance of Sin", and she didn't answer me. I also asked her what his neighbors must have thought was going on, when she pulled up in her truck, and trailer, and started moving in with him.
I suppose that someday I'll find out what's happening, and what the truth is, but for now, I have no idea what she's doing, and I suppose it's none of my business.
Thank you, and God Bless.